Thank you sb from audenshaw for your apology, i just wanted you to understand the pain that bereaved parents go through and we will until the day we die, i understand what you are saying but we are now in the 21st century and these are things that keep us going, i wish that we had a cemetry where if our children pass before us then all the children will be together but we have not got that. Children are so precious and losing a child is devastating, at the moment it is coming up to my sons first anniversary of his death and so his grave will be cluttered with people putting gifts on for him as i truly believe he knows. Theres a lot of childrens graves where there are no flowers or teddies just an old headstone and seeing that breaks my heart but obviously they may have no family. I think the council should concentrate on other issues like teenagers and violance, to many things to name

   havnt the council got better things to do than target childrens graves as if we havnt suffered enough at the lose of a child.my daughter died 13 yrs ago of carbon monoixide posioning and i visit her grave regular with my other children not one grave in denton with so called amusements look offensive if anything it helps my children come to terms with the lose of there sister.i wonder how these councillors would feel if it was one of grand childrens graves would they feel the same then ?

   I'd like to apologise for my comments. I am not a heartless person, I just believe that it is extremely important that the dignity of graveyards is preserved.

   sb from audenshaw, i take it that you have never lost a child because if you had then you would not be heartless. Its been 47 weeks since my precious son took his last breath through a disease that none of us want. I love my son and he would have been 7 this year. When you are old you are expected to die but children are not and our childs grave is the only place where we can be near to them phyically but you would not understand that. I feel comfort when i buy him things and cut his grass and clean his headstone as if i am still caring for him but i do not think you would understand that either.I have been in talks with certain people who have assured me that they are not targeting childrens grave. Please leave us alone to grieve with the worst pain in the whole wide world, one that will be with us till the day we are once again reunited with our beautiful children, until then their graves are our source of comfort.

   SB i cannot believe that after you caused upset to another bereaved parents in "no christmas teddies on graves" you have since posted on this thread with a very similar remark. Do you work for the council by any chance or are you just completely heartless?

   Being a bereaved parent myself and a Trustee of a charity for bereaved parents I now dedicate my life helping others because I understand their pain. Do not cause unnecessary heartache because believe me everyday is just another day of trying to survive without the loss of our children. Yes I believe that our children are somewhere else and it is just their body that is lying there but the cemetery is a place where we can show are unconditional love and pride for our loved one. Yes I agree about the spiked railings but what harm is it leaving small gift for a loved one.

I speak to bereaved parents nearly everyday who get support by leaving a light on for their child because their child was scared of the dark; if this gives comfort to the parent is this so wrong?

I could never have understood the pain and suffering before I lost my son but believe me when I say that I could not imagine anything so agonising.

Please show a little compassion and do not cause uncalled-for affliction.

Do something constructive like improving our roads and putting a drainage in the cemetery so that we are not greeted with a waterlogged grave everytime we have a downpour. I have seen people up to their knees in water tending to their loved ones grave; surely this is an health and safety issue and not leaving a teddy bear.

The proud mum of Callum

   Graveyards should be solemn. It's the American influence and of course the Diana syndrome.

   it is terrible when one loses a loved one,however its a different generation nowadays,and the younger generation want to do things different,however one should relise it is just a body in a casket ,if one is religios one would relize that heavan has we have been told is bright and when one dies one see,s the light,dont make a mockery of procedures that have been in place world wide for thousands of years let them rest in peace

   I know two parents who visit their babies,( One only a few days old and one six weeks old,) The graves are the only place these parents have where they can greave and do anything for their child, Don't take this away from them, To lose a child must be the most painful thing in the world, let them be PLEASE.

   Pity these damned jobsworths don't have anything better to do or are they in a postion that they know how it feels to loose a child? Anything that helps a grieving parent is OK by me.